Just Sex Vs. Intimacy

It seems that there are many conflicting opinions on the roles of sex and intimacy within a relationship (and out of one, too).

It is difficult to really get to the bottom of this problem because no two people have exactly the same ideas on sex. In a traditional framework, sex would come with long-term commitment, or marriage, which would be associated with the couple having an intimate connection with each other (and usually wishing to procreate).

However, in an increasingly promiscuous society, the connection between sex and intimacy can be a tenuous one.

Intimacy is at the heart of a strong relationship. Intimacy is about knowing someone deeply and being able to be completely free in that person’s presence. It is an emotional state that is often reserved for just one person. Ideally, sex in a loving relationship should be the physical embodiment of intimacy. It should come from a place of love and connection. Within a relationship the two are inextricably linked: intimacy builds sex and sex builds intimacy.

What are your thoughts ? Can you have sex with someone and have no type of emotional involvement ? As long as you “Climax” is that all that matters? What’s better, “Just Sex” or “Sex with Intimacy Involved” ?



New Journey

I’m BACK ! It’s been a while since I have posted anything. Maybe about a month or so. I had to take some time to gather my thoughts, get my life back on track and regain the strength that I lost for a moment. Within the last month, I have been doing good, but … a few things in the midst of that time slowed me down a bit. I lost focus and let people and “things” get in the way. I really had to sit back, think and get my mind back to where it needed to be in order to move on to this next journey in my life.

A few months ago, I turned 25. WHAT A GREAT FEELING ! Now, when people generally turn 25 … they say their life is over, it’s time to start a family, etc .. but .. in reality, in MY reality life has JUST begun.

For 25, I have done AMAZING things to get to where I am now. Where I come from, many don’t make it, but I did. I was reading an article the other day about 25 things to do/have before 25 and as I read it, I could do nothing but smile because out of all 25 things on that list, I did/had 24. That’s a DAMN good feeling. I think honestly, that just pushed me to do and want more for myself.

The next chapter in my life is very important. Although I have had a few ups and downs lately, that is not going to stop me from what I am doing and where I want to go. I CAN say that within this last month of I guess you can call it “soul searching” I’ve found out a lot of things, and I have learned a lot of things about myself and that feels good.

I am ready for this journey. I am ready to see if I can do everything on my list by next year. I’m sure that If I was able to move across the state, graduate college, lose weight, etc … what I have planned next will be a piece of cake !

Don’t believe me … Just WATCH !

– A